Cancer Ever After

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Thank you infertility

on 12/20/2014

If you had told me five, three or even one year ago that someday I would be thankful for my infertility, I’m pretty sure I would have clawed your eyes out. That, or punched you in the junk.

But I am.

I think this is probably true for anyone who experiences a significant challenge in their life or a health scare. So thank you, infertility:

  • For making me a more patient parent. After years of waiting and 141 days of bed rest, what’s a tantrum? My employer has also noticed the improvement!
  • For helping me not sweat the small stuff. With so much that has been out of our control over the last several years, we’ve learned to let small stuff ride.
  • For showing me who will stand by our side. I’ve been so lucky in my support through our journey.
  • For giving me strength I didn’t know I was capable of. After my girls were born, I went to the mat negotiating for a new job. I wouldn’t have done that previously.
  • For showing me what my priorities are. Because of the wait to get our girls, I insisted on a long maternity leave. And it was long enough for me to know that I am happiest as a working mother. Part of me will always want to stay home, but I am content in my choice. However, even though I want to have a career, my girls are my priority.
  • For making me infamous. To this day, I’m pretty sure that everyone thinks my hubby and I had a quickie in the bathroom at a wedding. We only wish it were that glamorous–we were giving me progesterone injections in the hope that my body would sustain the pregnancy.
  • For forcing us to focus on our finances. Prior to infertility, we were your typical Americans: charging on cards, tons of student loans. The process of paying for treatments and getting qualified for loans helped us focus on what really mattered when it came to our money. Discipline is easy when your priorities are focused.
  • And most of all, thank you for bringing us two (soon to be three!) wonderful children. Had the journey been any different, it wouldn’t be these specific children and we know we are blessed.

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